Who is at fault when an extramarital affair happens? Is it the married person’s fault…or is it the side piece’s fault?
When you enter into a marriage, there are vows; you know, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part…all that. You stand before a judge, priest, preacher or what have you, and witnesses and promise to love and honor and cherish each other. It is a commitment, a ceremony that binds the two of you together. That does not include anyone else. So when you step outside of this marriage to lay with someone else, you have broken a commitment. That’s some deep emotional shit.
So what causes someone to look outside the marriage? is it just for sex? I have known men and women that are getting plenty at home, but just can’t give up that extra piece on the side. Then why be married? If you feel the need to still go out and fuck around, don’t get married. That seems pretty plain and simple, right? But I think marriage provides a comfort, a safe place. Some marriages are simply arrangements…you take care of me, I’ll take care of the house, we’ll raise the kids…but you do you, and I will do me.
Side note: if you are going to cheat on me, that heffa better look better than me or we really gon’ have some problems. That chick that John Edwards was cheating with? He should be ashamed…but then again, that just goes to show you that looks really have nothing to do with it. There is something else there, something deeper than her fat ass, or his cute dimples…
I worked with this dude who played on his wife with a lot of different women in the office. He dated his wife for a long time before they got married, and he put all these conditions on her before he would even propose. Things like getting her credit in order (now this one I kinda understand), losing 30 pounds…he even told her that she needed to start dressing and looking better when they went out! And she did all that…now mind you, he was cheating on her while they were dating, and that shit continued when they got married. She had absolutely no clue and quite frankly, I don’t know if she ever found out. Dude wasn’t the most attractive guy in the world, but he was nice and would do anything to help anybody…that was his M.O. Once you got sucked in, you were caught in the web. And he sucked this one girl dry…two abortions, and she is still running after his ass. That is when it gets dangerous. When the side piece falls in love…what do you do then?
What about the side piece? What makes them do what they do? They know that the person is in a committed relationship, yet they take the jump anyway. Maybe it is the thought that since that person is married, the relationship can’t go anywhere so the heart is safe…that shit is so wrong, I can’t begin to tell you. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that spending time with someone, along with fucking them, will stir up some emotions…when you enter into an extramarital affair, you are putting your heart at risk. you can’t win. And even if that person leaves his husband or wife for you, how good or long do you honestly believe your relationship will be or will last? Think about that shit…you were the pussy/dick on the side…what makes you think there won’t be another to come along?
Do I sound angry? I don’t mean to…I’m curious. It just doesn’t make sense to me the drama that people bring upon themselves…shit, I’m the first person willing to admit that I like sex, but I don’t want the drama so I will pass up on getting some if it means that I can live in peace.
